Working together to stop all forms of bullying – A Students’ Guide

Definition of Bullying

‘The repetitive intentional hurting of one person by an individual or group where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. Bullying can be carried out, physically, verbally, emotionally or in cyber space (Anti Bullying Alliance).’

Types of Bullying

1. Bullying related to race, religion or culture
2. Bullying related to special educational needs or disability
3. Bullying related to appearance or health conditions
4. Bullying related to sexual orientation – homophobic abuse
5. Bullying of young carers, children in care or due to home circumstances
6. Sexist or sexual bullying

Bullying and bullying behaviours can take the form of:

Physical
• Assault, pushing, shouldering, elbowing, tripping, slapping, kicking, hair pulling, inacceptable touching (including that of a sexual nature), throwing items, blocking i.e.: preventing movement through an access point, pinching, stabbing, burning, spitting or any other form of physical activity that makes a person feel threatened or intimidated.
Social
• Verbal – Any words (e.g. Racial, sexual, homophobic, disability etc…) used in a sexual or aggressive manner designed to hurt or cause offence. In addition, any comments made about the size, appearance, clothing, odour, academic ability or other abilities, home life, social circumstances, financial circumstances, spreading rumours or any other comments designed to be hurtful or words used to intimidate.
• Written – Any insults contained in note passing, threatening letters, graffiti, defacing any property belonging to another; or any message passed electronically by text or via computer.
• Interference with another person – Theft, extortion, vandalism, defacing property, ruling games, blackmail or any other activity designed to intimidate or hurt.
• Incitement of others – Encouraging or forcing others to become in bullying or bullying behaviours e.g. blackmailing, excluding or use of threatening behaviours.
• Sexist – Comments or observations that are derogatory to the opposite sex.
Emotional
• Psychological pressure (silent bullying) – Social exclusion, rude gestures. lying, re-organising or pressurising friendship groups or any other activity designed to intimidate or hurt an individual.
• Subtle bullying – Looking at a person in a particular way, swearing at or about a person.
• Cyber-bullying – Emailing or texting about a person or to a person, happy slapping, blogging or through the use of social networking sites. This also includes spreading rumours or defacing or corrupting work
• Racist bullying – Name calling, incitement, making comments about a person’s country, culture, religion or appearance, commenting on parents, spreading rumours.
• Disabilist bullying – Bullying a person because of their disability, or perceived disability.

How we deal with incidents of bullying

If you are being bullied or have witnessed the bullying of others you can report this to any of the following people (locations in brackets):
• Your Tutor (your Tutor room)
• Your Head of Year (the Student Support Hub)
• Your class Teacher (your Teacher’s classroom)
• A Teaching Assistant (in class or in the SEN area)
• A Peer Mentor (the Student Support Hub)
• A Meal Time Assistant (around the school site at lunchtime)
• Any member of staff that you trust
If bullying is suspected we talk to the victim(s), the suspected bully and any witnesses. If any degree of bullying is identified we always take action.
Help, support and counseling will be given as appropriate to both the victims and the bullies.

We support the victims in the following ways:

• By offering them an immediate opportunity to talk about the experience, make written statements with their class teacher, or another adult of their choice.
• Informing the victim’s parents/carers.
• By offering continuing support when they feel they need it.
• Arranging for them to be escorted to and from the School premises if they require this.

We also discipline, yet try to help the bully in the following ways:

• By talking about what happened, to discover why they became involved.
• By informing the bully’s parents/carers.
• By continuing to work with the bullies in order to eliminate the source of their actions e.g. prejudiced attitudes etc…This may involve on-going counseling.
• By taking one or more of the five disciplinary steps described below to prevent more bullying:

Anti-bullying disciplinary steps
1. The bully will be warned officially to stop offending and will be counseled to assist them in doing this. This may include disciplinary actions such as detentions. The bully’s parents/carers will be informed.
2. The bully may be isolated at break and/or lunch times or arrangements may be made to have them escorted to and from the school premises
3. If they do not stop bullying they will be Internally Excluded for a fixed period up to three days.

What can you do about bullying?

• Do support the victim of bullying
• Do help others to have the confidence to tell someone
• Do report it, if you witness bullying
• Do think of other people’s feelings
• Don’t ignore the problem – it might not go away
• Don’t join in because everyone else is
• Don’t join in because you’re frightened you might get picked on

Do not tolerate bullying

If you see it or experience it – REPORT IT